Sent by Anonymous :
Um, I don't mean to bother you or anything, but do you have any advice on how to avoid queerbaiting in writing? I'm working on a story and I'm afraid I might wind up inadvertently queerbaiting the audience and I really want to avoid that.
You’re not a bother at all, promise :)
Honestly, the very fact that you’re worried about this is a good sign because it means you’ll be paying attention to it and that’s the first step of representation, imo.
Queerbaiting is a difficult thing to deal with because it can take very subtle forms, and the reader/viewer’s experiences plays a lot into whether they’ll feel baited or not.
That being said when you get down to it, queerbaiting is when you set up queer subtext between characters that won’t get together by the end of your story. In other words, queer baiting is a promise you don’t intend to uphold.
In view of that, my biggest advice is to avoid ship teasing and related tropes, unless you’re planning on making the ship you’re teasing canon. There are a number of tropes to avoid with regard to queer relationships, but where queerbaiting is concerned, this is the main one. Just… don’t hint at something that’s not going to happen and you’ll be good.
This means, for example, making sure same-sex friendships stay explicitely platonic unless you’re planning on changing the game later on–steering clear of things like lingering glances, excessive cuddling or very intimate gestures, etc.–and avoid going introducing sexual tension between your characters if they’re not destined to have a romantic (sub)plot, etc.
As a last bit of advice though: people will ship, and yes, they will ship queer ships that you didn’t intend to make. That’s completely okay, and nothing you can prevent from happening. do your best, keep an eye out for potentially harmful trope, and have your work beta read and edited.
And if it turns out you failed anyway–because that happens–learn from experience, and strive to progress in your next story. That, in my opinion, is the most important part.
I hope this helped a little :)