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You may think I won't notice, but I do
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2019 09:54 pm So tomorrow I have both a physiotherapy (motorcycle accident related) and an acupuncture (everything else related) set up, and I can't help but compare their reactions when I told them that I was trans.
My acupuncturist learned about my being trans and the first question he asked me was how my family took it. He commiserated with me when he learned it wasn't going too well, and proceeded to talk to me like I'd expect him to talk to any other patient.
The physiotherapist, when I told him, asked me 'how it works', aka what I'm doing to 'be trans' (aka: medical question) and then proceeded to talk to me about how flamboyant gay Cambodian men are and also about his one straight friend who he thought was gay but wasn't.
There are... a number of things I wish I'd thought of saying on that second appointment (or dared saying) and also maybe I have yet to figure out the best way to handle the trans thing in medical context (that might be a topic for another post) but what I get from that is a very different message about their respective first concerns, and how it was much easier to trust the former than I think it will be to trust the latter.
It isn't that it's *impossible* per se, just that it speaks to different priorities and even if that first reaction doesn't have to be a deal breaker... I notice.
And if it turns into a pattern, I'll notice that, too.
My acupuncturist learned about my being trans and the first question he asked me was how my family took it. He commiserated with me when he learned it wasn't going too well, and proceeded to talk to me like I'd expect him to talk to any other patient.
The physiotherapist, when I told him, asked me 'how it works', aka what I'm doing to 'be trans' (aka: medical question) and then proceeded to talk to me about how flamboyant gay Cambodian men are and also about his one straight friend who he thought was gay but wasn't.
There are... a number of things I wish I'd thought of saying on that second appointment (or dared saying) and also maybe I have yet to figure out the best way to handle the trans thing in medical context (that might be a topic for another post) but what I get from that is a very different message about their respective first concerns, and how it was much easier to trust the former than I think it will be to trust the latter.
It isn't that it's *impossible* per se, just that it speaks to different priorities and even if that first reaction doesn't have to be a deal breaker... I notice.
And if it turns into a pattern, I'll notice that, too.
